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So my girlfriends mother and step father are what I would say pretty religious people.(attending church more than 3times a week) They have only been married for about 4yrs, and they live in a very small community in Southern Oregon. They are both in there late 50s. She owned everything before they met, Really nice ranch, cars and guest house. He had an old broken down mid 80s camaro and was a cook in a crappy dinner living in someones basement.
Anyways they are really broke now cant even afford to pay the phone bill, ranch is getting really run down, had to sell a couple of cars, and he now has this secret lair in the guest house supposedly doing a "computer business". And on top of that he spent all of HER retirement money on the stock market last year and as I said have been broke ever since.
So this really pisses off my GF and her 3 sisters to see there mother live this way, and not being able to call there mother to check in.
So they have asked why he doesn’t get a job several times to pay for the bills and upkeep on the ranch. Every time he says no I have computer business, (which doesn’t make money IMO).

My question is, do you think as a so called religious man that he should be providing for his wife the way most husband and wife’s do?
Is he living high on the hog at her expense, since he had nothing before and just draining her financially?

I do believe in God, Im just haven’t gotten as far up the trail with him as most of you have.

Should we just mind our own business? Does it say anywhere in the bible about providing for your wife?
Thanks I hope this makes sense
I almost forgot, He’s burned the rapture in to the head. Saying going to be any time now.. Another reason he doesnt want to work..

If she doesn’t’ mind, why should you? Money is not what makes people happy. Just think it does. When she has had enough, she will deal with it.

6 Responses

1. Hahahahaha... ^_^ Says:
   November 30th, 2009 at 3:10 am

   To provide, or not to provide… this should not be a question.
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2. Vera V. Says:
   November 30th, 2009 at 3:37 am

   Regardless of how religious he is, he is definitely not acting as a christian husband should. He needs to get off the computer and go to work! The Bible says men will provide by the sweat of his brow…Someone should remind him of that! Poor lady.
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3. Heaven bound. Says:
   November 30th, 2009 at 3:50 am

   If she doesn’t’ mind, why should you? Money is not what makes people happy. Just think it does. When she has had enough, she will deal with it.
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4. onebriiguy Says:
   November 30th, 2009 at 4:22 am

   I don’t recall anything specific in the Bible about a man providing for his family. I do know that the book of Proverbs is full of admonitions to work hard and to avoid being lazy. In the NT, in Colossians, Paul says that Christians are to work as if working for the Lord himself. To me that means being known as a hard worker with excellent skills.

   If this guy isn’t providing for your girlfriend’s mother, then it would seem that he’s falling down on the job. The story you tell sounds like one of someone who has taken advantage. Sorry to hear that. You’d have to see a lawyer, but I doubt if there’s anything you can legally do at this point. Maybe get the mother a Trac phone or something so that you can keep in touch.

   What does the mom say about all of this? If she takes up for him you are really out of luck. Pushing on him will only drive her away.
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5. SJC Says:
   November 30th, 2009 at 4:49 am

   1 Timothy 5:8.
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6. Chris B Says:
   November 30th, 2009 at 5:23 am

   Absolutely!
   God calls men to protect and support their families. When a man is doing the best he can but still failing, that is one thing.
   This guy sounds like he’s on a hunt for a golden egg – or dare I say it – into something he shouldn’t be.
   As far as the financial stuff goes – I would believe there is a curse in effect (lack of tithing etc) or just plain greed.
   In any case, God holds the man responsible for a situation like this. I know the world has long moved on from this kind of thinking, but God hasn’t changed – the man must look after his wife and love her like Jesus loves the church. And the definition of love – 1 Corinthians 13

   While you can let your girlfriend’s mother know that you are concerned and if she needs to talk you will be there – you’re going to have to let her sort this one out. She needs to hear from God about this situation.

   Your concern is a wonderful thing though…just keep both of them in prayer – that’s the best you can do.
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